What Would Feel Most Supportive to Me in this Moment?

A simple exercise for knowing what to do at every moment. An intuitive way of living and being productive.

As within, so without.

When our “inner world” feels disorganized or in disharmony, our “outer world” will feel the same. This is because we perceive our world through the filter of our thoughts and feelings.

Have you ever noticed how when you feel overwhelmed, you often compound the problem by trying to deflect from all of the things burning a hole in your to-do list?  By doing things like going on social media, watching YouTube videos, eating, having a drink, etc.? I know I have! Many times! And doesn’t this create even more anxiety and the desire to deflect even more? Ouch, so not fun.

Here is an exercise that will take your focus onto you and turn your life into minute-to-minute bite-sized pieces, making things much easier to manage and providing you with peace and joy. Things can feel intense when we see the world through the lens of vastness... or “macrocosm” of the world. When we say things like “I should do this”, or “I need to be doing that”. Whose voice is that? Probably not yours, but a program of someone who once told you how to BE in order to be “good”. This is simply not the truth.

When we view ourselves and our lives through the filter of how we THINK others perceive us (mom, dad, society, friends, boss, coworkers, and clients), we can become overwhelmed because we are not actually listening to what we truly need and desire. We are not being authentic! The trick is to turn your thoughts into tunnel vision and ONLY focus on what would feel good in this moment. This way, you awaken your intuition. And you start to trust that your intuition, or higher self, actually knows what is best for you!

Here is a KEY phrase to keep at the forefront of your mind at all times, with every decision, as you go throughout your day: “What would feel most supportive to me, mentally, physically, and spiritually?” And then follow this advice... that is coming from YOU! And who better than you to take advice from?

Here is an example: Your alarm goes off at 6 am. You had planned to get up early and work out. However, you know you had a really terrible night's sleep. When you ask yourself the question, “What would feel most supportive to me in this moment”? You offer yourself permission to weigh all of the pros and cons of what would happen, how you would feel, what your energy level would be like, how your family would be affected, etc., if you went back to sleep. And immediately, you decide to allow yourself to get the extra hour of sleep. This would truly feel most supportive to your life. You then, without guilt or pressure, set your alarm for 7:00, knowing that you have weighed the pros and cons from an empowered place, and wake up at 7 am feeling more refreshed.  If you were a different person with a different life, you might make a different decision, but this is not a different person with a different life. This is your life, your time, and it is sacred and valuable.

Example 2: Your kids are getting off the bus. One of them says that there was a substitute bus driver that day, and she had to pull the bus over and talk very sternly with the kids because of how loud and crazy they were. You know your kid’s sensitivity level, how young they are, how inexperienced they are with taking the bus, etc. Most importantly, you see they are visibly shaken up and on the verge of tears. Instead of having them jump right in the car to go to gymnastics practice, you ask yourself, “What would be the most supportive thing I could do for myself and my life at this moment?” Immediately, you weigh all the pros and cons and invite your kids inside to have 10 minutes of video game time before luring them to the car with a snack you know they would like, which is not the healthiest. Yep, truly, screen time, a mediocre snack, and a late arrival to gymnastics is the correct answer for you at this moment (and damn, it feels good to everyone!)

Once you begin this process, you realize that you are the one in control. You have the wheel, and you are empowered. Nobody outside of yourself is telling you the rules of life. ALL perceived "rules" are coming from YOU!

Ask yourself this question a hundred times today… with every decision you make, big or small, notice how it takes guilt and shame away and invites you to tune inward andnot give your power to an outside source telling you what is right or wrong.

You can ask it about food choices, what to wear, when you respond to that text, or how late you let your kids stay up. Because not every day has to be the same. You can have overall goals and intentions, but allow yourself to not rigidly flow them. There are no such things as “should’s” ... they only exist in your mind. As you calm your inner landscape, your world will reflect this change.

Let me know how you do with this exercise! Now, excuse me while I go take a power nap. And let me know if you would like to set up a coaching appointment where I can uniquely guide you through this process!